Approval Addiction

My name is Joy and I’m addicted to approval.

I want to get real with you all. My desire for approval is an issue that God has revealed to me and has begun working on in my life. I’ve realized that this issue effects every aspect of my life. For example, I want my parents approval, and that sometimes leads me to follow their plan for my life over God’s plan for my life. I want my friends to like me, and because of that I’m not always honest or true to who God made me to be.

My approval addiction hinders my authenticity as a Christian, and hurts how others view Jesus.

I realize it is impossible for everyone in my life to approve of me. I’m working on realizing that none of their opinions matter, only God’s.

We want approval, and to gain it we think we have to perform. We perform when we change from who God created us to be into a person who we think others will like more.

Recently, I have started watching Dancing with the Stars. What drew me to the show was Candace Cameron Bure, most commonly known as DJ Tanner from Full House. Candace openly shares on the show that she puts faith first, likes the light, and performs for an audience of one.

On last weeks episode she said, “I always remember, that no matter how many people I’m performing for, I’m really performing for an audience of one. And that’s for God.”

I admire Candace because she is an authentic Christian. It would be easy for her to get upset over negative comments from the world, but she chooses to not let them bother her. Instead of letting them upset her, she chooses to only care about how God views her and how she is performing to him.

Thank you Candace for being a great example to the world and for being a truly authentic Christian.

People will always have opinions. Some may hurt you and some may help you, but we have to remember that what other people think of us doesn’t matter.

Who are you performing for? Who are you trying to please? Would God approve of what you say, think, and do?

Remember, you are performing for an audience of one.


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10 Comments on Approval Addiction

  1. I Give God all the Glory
    at (10 years ago)


    Hi. Thanks for visiting my blog. It’s nice to meet you. I really like this post and appreciate your honesty. I love both Candace and Karen – they’re both great woman of God. I’m looking forward to your posts!

    God bless you.

    Jennifer – I Give God All The Glory

    • Joy Skarka
      at (10 years ago)

      Hi Jennifer!
      Thanks for the comment and encouraging words! I’m looking forward to getting to know you through your posts as well!

      <3 Joy

  2. kelljean
    at (10 years ago)

    I was also struck by Candace’s words on the show (I only got to watch it last week, but what a great one to see). It, indeed, was encouraging to see what a sincere & authentic Christian she is. What a great example for us to look to, whether we are in the limelight or not.

    • Joy Skarka
      at (10 years ago)

      Thank you for your comment! I’m glad you were able to see that episode. I’m sure the final tonight and tomorrow will be just as good.

  3. Kami
    at (10 years ago)

    Great post Joy! A lesson I seem to need over and over again!!

    • Joy Skarka
      at (10 years ago)

      Thank you for the encouragement Kami! I think we all need this lesson a lot =]

  4. AMR
    at (10 years ago)

    Right on. I can relate and appreciate the reminder 🙂 Timely and relevant post!

    • Joy Skarka
      at (10 years ago)

      Thank you for reading and the encouragement! Glad it is relate-able =]