Sexual Shame

  • How to Overcome Sexual Shame |Video

    How to Overcome Sexual Shame: Check out this video from my talk at the adolescent girls ministry, Four ThirTeen Youth Ministry. In this video, I briefly share my story. Then we look to Genesis to see how God created us as sexual brings and how Adam and Eve first experienced sexual shame. Lastly, we will […] Read more…

  • Pornography and Sexual Shame (Part 2)

    Pornography is a growing epidemic. 1 out of 3 visitors to adult sites are women. Joy will talk about the problems of pornography, how it impacts us, our society, and our relationships, and then provide practical ways to begin walking in freedom. Read more…

Pornography

  • Do Rom Coms and TikToks Trigger Porn Use?

    Try to name three recent movies that did not have a romance story in the plot. Could you do it? I couldn’t. The media feeds us the lie that we need a man to complete us. During seasons of isolation, watching rom coms do not help with our loneliness and actually, can cause us to […] Read more…

  • 3 Things Women Want You To Know About Their Addiction to Pornography

    As someone who serves in ministry with my own history of struggling with pornography, women often pour out their stories to me with a sigh of relief. While sitting on my living room couch, Jessica shared her struggle with porn: I was exposed to pornography as a first grader by a childhood friend. I had […] Read more…

Relationship With Jesus

  • 3 Things I (Wish I Hadn’t) Learned From Pornography

    When I was s a fifth grader, my friend opened my laptop and introduced me to pornography. At the time, I didn’t know what pornography was, but I did know that it was something new and exciting. Years would go by before I rediscovered porn. In college, after experiencing date rape (my first time having […] Read more…

  • How to Suffer Well Through Sickness | Blog on Authentic Intimacy

    TW; mention of assault and trauma. This past spring, I spent 30 nights alone in the hospital without my loving husband by my side. One night, as I laid in my hospital bed, I thought back on the decision I made to marry him. Little did I know how my decision three years ago would […] Read more…

Your Story

  • Purpose in Purity Podcast: Sexual Shame & Trauma | How to Heal

    “I felt like God messed up when he created me, because I had so much sexual desire.” – @JoySkarka STRUGGLING WITH SEXUAL SHAME? Ever feel like your sexual desires are too much or you (or God) to handle as a Jesus-loving gal? Find encouragement as Titania Paige and I discuss healing from sexual shame and […] Read more…

  • Spice Up Your Sex Life During Quarantine

    Are you feeling stuck in your home and in your sex life? Think back to the last time you left your house: It could possibly have been four or five weeks! And most likely it has been even longer since you and your spouse went out for a date night.  When my husband and I were newlyweds, […] Read more…

Resources

  • Podcast on Pure Sex Radio: Freedom & Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse

    Many women have faced the terrible trauma of sexual abuse and rape. How can a woman heal and recover from such deep pain? In this episode, I share my personal story of sexual brokenness and how the grace of God intersected with my pain to bring lasting healing and freedom. Wherever you are in your […] Read more…

  • COVID-19 and Porn: A Quick Fix But No Solution

    Since COVID-19 the pornography industry has seen a massive increase in website traffic. On March 24th, one major site announced that their premium content would be free to all visitors resulting in a massive increase of 18.5%. The site explained that watching free porn will encourage people to stay home and flatten the curve.  It’s […] Read more…